Dr. Stella Resnick

I'm a psychologist, a psychotherapist, and an author of three books focusing on love, intimacy, and the healing power of pleasure. I help couples recognize how they may be repeating the negative habits they grew up with, how their parents may have related to one another, and how to relearn skills that will help them fully love and enjoy each other. I help couples relearn new ways of being together that are communicative, respectful, playful, and forgiving. 

Only then can they experience the qualities of love together that help them heal whatever wounds they may have endured and forgive each other, rebuilding a new way of truly and deeply loving one another—an embodied love, felt in heart and throughout the body. A way of loving that forgives, heals past wounds, and contributes to overall health and happiness. I especially enjoy working with couples eager to deepen their bond and open to exploring the habits that hold them back from the emotional and sexual joys possible in their relationship. I give exercises to practice at home, like breathing together, holding, sharing positive feedback, and appreciating what you most love about the other. Sharing what you both need to change in how you relate to each other. Learning to ask for what you want and to ask nicely. 

I stress the importance of forgiveness, and of being playful together and building on your repertoire of emotional and sexual pleasures together. We practice during the session new ways of being together, a new set of body-based skills that deepen the intimacy between you and build your capacity to love fully. We explore the healing power of releasing past pain and building the capacity to help each other heal from any traumas you may have endured in your family of origin or previous intimate relationships.

Periodically, I offer weekly couples’ groups and monthly seminars for couples on Zoom. I call my work Embodied Relational Sex and Couples Therapy to explore what may be holding you back from fulfilling your full potential for loving one another. Besides my own loving relationship with my husband of 41 years together, my greatest influences have been my training in Gestalt therapy with Fritz Perls and Laura Perls and, most currently, my studies with the renowned neuroscientist Dr. Allan N. Schore on how the brain is programmed at our earliest stages in life and how the empathetic therapist can be most effective in helping to provide the quality of compassion to inspire safety in a relationship and new pathways to healing.

I am an AASECT-certified Sex therapist, certified supervisor, and provider of CEs. I run Supervision groups for sex therapists seeking to become AASECT certified Sex Therapists. (American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists.) 

At the 2020 AASECT National Conference, I was honored to be presented with the AASECT Award for Integrative Approaches to Sex Therapy 

My three published books, available on Amazon, are: