Programs for Couples & Individuals
What is love in this time of coronavirus? How has COVID affected our relationships, particularly our domestic relationships where body-to-body intimacy can be dangerous, especially if one person has to leave the house to work or shop while the other stays home to care for family? How does this affect raising children when you’re afraid to comfort them when they’re hurt or scared? And what happens to kissing, hugging, holding, or making love? These are our new intimacy issues where touching and entering each other’s personal space can be hazardous to health or even life.
Given the new reality of our current global pandemic, I’ve designed a virtual format for the transformational ERST training. This Zoom-based program is a 3-weekend, 10-hour webinar per weekend, for a total of 30 hours and 30 CE credits for professionals. This ERST Virtual training will focus on emotional, relational, and sexual health and I am opening it to non-professionals as well. You may come as a couple or invite a partner to share this experience with you at no extra fee as long as you share a single screen. Here are the details.
Whether you join by yourself, or with a romantic, platonic, or collegial partner, this workshop will explore interpersonal dynamics that can enhance any relationship, sexual or non-sexual. These are stressful times. Research shows that men and women respond differently to stress. Men tend to externalize stress as anger; women tend to internalize stress as anxiety, guilt or shame. How do these gender differences affect our intimate relations, whether in an opposite sex or same sex relationship? Even in this time of non-binary gender awareness our coping strategies may differ.
During the meetings, I give short talks on relevant research and anecdotal evidence. We do body-based experiential processing and participants have opportunities to process their own emotional, sexual and relational repair and pleasure enhancement.
The work is rooted in my dedicated exploration of the science and psychology of pleasure in my books, articles, and trainings of the last four decades, particularly in my latest book, Body-to-Body Intimacy: Transformation Through Love, Sex, and Neurobiology (2019)
Join this workshop by yourself
Those working on their own will have opportunities to explore their sexual and/or non-sexual relationships through relational imagery, memories re-awakened, and interactive group processes with other participants on the webinar screen.
Join with a partner
You do not have to be in a sexual relationship with your partner. You only need to be willing to share personal feelings, deepen the quality of your relationship, and support each other’s emotional, relational, and sexual healing and growth.
This holistic training is didactic and experiential. The experiential processing is based in Gestalt practices. The emphasis is on body-based present-centered experiential processing to encourage body-awareness and the integration of self, sexuality, and pleasure through openness, authenticity, empathy, and relational attunement.
We work with the breath, sensory awareness, intuitive sensing, memories, emotions, and stress regulation. The aim is to heal shame, embrace authenticity, and broaden expansive pleasures. This work is supported by the latest developments in interpersonal neurobiology, grounded in a solid understanding of human sexual biodiversity, and attuned to the critical roles of pleasure and play in emotional, physical, sexual, and relational health and happiness.
Friday, July 31 – Saturday, August 1, 2020
Sexuality at the Core of the Whole Person:
Defining embodied relational sexuality and experientially tracing its shaping in childhood and adolescence to adult pleasure and happiness.
Friday, August 14 – Saturday, August 15, 2020
Sexual Fulfillment and Interpersonal Growth:
How sexual healing heals more than sex; authenticity, empathy, processing relational and sexual trauma, repairing trust, and integrating love, sex, and commitment.
Friday, August 28 – Saturday, August 29, 2020
Evoking Authentic Love and Desire:
Essentials of romance and play, sexual aliveness, synchrony in breath, left brain vs. right brain love, mindful eroticism.
Registration includes all three weekends. There is no registration for individual weekends.
Recommended readings: S. Resnick, Body-to-Body Intimacy: Transformation Through Love, Sex, and Neurobiology, The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasures of Love and The Pleasure Zone: Why We Resist Good Feelings.
True love is not just about being true to another. The most fulfilling love is when you are also true to yourself. You want to be loved for who you truly are and not for who you can pretend to be.
Being romantic is a great way for partners to play. When one person is attentive to the other with a lighthearted and lively spirit and the other reciprocates in some way—laughs at the joke or smiles back and stays engaged—they've connected with their inner playmates.
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